When you’re a new mom, it's not unusual that you'll want to do everything right. However, this is a new experience for you, so the pressure to be perfect can cause you to feel anxious and upset.
Therefore, it's important to take steps to reduce your stress as a new parent. You will be healthier and happier – and so will your baby!
A new baby brings a lot of joy – but also brings a lot of new experiences that can cause stress. You’re not sleeping as much, you don’t have the independence you’re used to, and you’re still getting to know how to meet the needs of your little one.
I can fully understand what you're going through because I didn't have one but two babies! I remember the sleepless nights when my twins will wake up every 3 hours for their milk. They were more accurate than the alarm clocks and one woke up crying for milk, the other will definitely follow!
Thus, at this time, it’s critical to reduce your stress in any way you can.
When you’re in a stressful situation surrounding your new baby, you may feel guilty for your emotions. You may feel like you shouldn’t have any unhappy feelings about your baby.
However, it’s natural and normal to feel stressed out. In fact, you should be more worried if you have no stress. In order to reduce your stress you must let go of the guilt and deal with the problems that are causing those feelings.
When you’re trying to reduce your stress, it really helps to have a plan of action...
The first thing you can do is make a list of all the things that are actually causing the stress.
For example, it could be that you’re only getting two hours of sleep at a time, that you haven’t been able to get out of the house as much as you’d like, or that you’re spending too much time trying to please friends and relatives.
Once you’ve identified the things that are triggering your stress, you can create a plan to reduce your stress. Take just one situation on the list and think of as many ways as possible to reduce the problem.
For example, if you’re not getting out of the house enough, you may be able to enlist the help of a friend or relative to baby sit or go with you so you can have an extra helping hand on an outing. If your spouse is able to assist in taking care of your baby, that'll help a great deal, especially in the night when both of you could take turns waking up to feed the baby.
This way you can have your needs met and reduce your stress.
Asking for help may be very difficult – especially if you’re used to being independent and taking care of everything on your own. However, to reduce your stress it’s critical that you allow others to help you whenever possible. In fact, the one you've turned to for help may be more than willing.
Back in the days when my babies were little, I used to have my mother-in-law and my sister taking turns to look after them. They were very eager to help because they both love babies and I wouldn't have known if I didn't ask for help in the first place!
So if you're feeling stressed, it may be time to ask someone for help...